Marriage Counseling

Creating the Love You Want

Marriage and relationship counseling is my forte and passion. About 70 percent of the people I work with come to me for help with their relationships. One of the questions I’m most frequently asked is, “How do you work?” The simple answer is that working with a counselor, or anyone, for that matter, is about creating a relationship. My aim in all coaching situations is for people to feel understood, respected and encouraged. I encourage you to come in for an initial session, experience how I interact with you and notice how helpful my information is for you. My intention for you in that first session is that you experience great insight. Expect to leave with a much improved understanding of the problems that have held you back and clear ideas of what it will take for you to create the love you seek. After that it’s a matter of continuing to uncover and correct ineffective beliefs about relationships and implementing tools that will work for you and will become permanent in your life.

Questions? Call or Email Today

Your first session very likely will have a strong and positive impact on your relationship. The initial session for couples is two hours and I offer it at a discounted rate – $80. One hour for individuals is $40. For questions or to schedule a session call (512) 653-4316 or E-Mail David Cantu.
Following is a sampling of coaching ideas I teach and encourage you to practice.

Responsibility

Quite often the mistake we make in relationships is that we assume the attitude “I’m right and if you will only listen to me and do what I say, then all our problems will go away.” In other words, we tend to blame our difficulties on the other person. The most effective alternative is responsibility. We are far more effective in creating the love we want by first asking ourselves “What am I doing that makes our partnership more difficult?” Another assumption we frequently make that’s not helpful is “I’ve done everything possible and nothing works with my spouse. He just doesn’t get it!” A far better perspective is “I haven’t been effective, how can I be different, and what can I do to create a better result?”

Self Acceptance

A second belief system I frequently encounter in people is feelings of worthlessness. Somewhere in life you, or your partner, accepted the notion that you weren’t valuable or lovable. As a result, you may feel put down or abused in a relationship. You may even have a history of choosing emotionally or physically abusive partners. Creating self-confidence and believing in your inherent value is crucial to a loving marriage. I can help you accomplish this important realization with coaching.

We Offer You Much More

You will be introduced to many other helpful ideas in a coaching session. Expect to feel heard, understood, appreciated and inspired.
Read some of my articles on relationships here. Also see Counseling Approach.
To see our rates go to the Fees Page.